Accepting Change and Personal Growth

The past 6 years of my life has been a series of tremendous change and growth. I've gotten married, had kids, quit my job as a full time lecturer, dived head first into business and then gotten a divorced.

At the age of 28 I was a single mom with two kids. I had full custody of two babies aged 2 and a newborn. I was juggling a family business that I wasn't passionate about and it was creating a wedge between me and my family. I felt lost and completely alone. It was the absolute lowest point of my life. I felt alone, useless, unloved and judged. But it was this major breakthrough in my life that has made me become what I am today. An independent, confident and loving person whose mantra in life is #flipshairandwinatit.

A diamond is formed through rigorous pressures from volcanic eruptions. Similarly, the pressures that I undergone emotionally, physically and mentally changed me completely. I've achieved a deeper understanding of the different ways people communicate. Having this perspective made me change the way I interact with my surroundings. I realised that people and even myself cannot be pushed to do something that I do not believe in. No matter how hard you try you'll never put your heart in something that you are not passionate about. May it be work, love or your life in general. I learnt that the hard way. But it was breaking free from the societal and family pressures that made me braver and be more decisive in the decisions I made. From there, the diamond within me began to shine.

My role as a mother from the age of 26 also taught me many many lessons. One, language is the most important and powerful tool to teach your kids. Every word you utter will decide the course on educating your children. It is this role where I learnt the art of communication because if you cannot get a two year to rationalise and understand you, then you won't be able to communicate effectively with adults. Two, exercise patience. This would be the most valuable lesson that I can ever learn. With patience you learn to manage your emotions. By managing your emotions you are able to look above the situation and analyse it rationally. 

It is with this change that I accept and I grow to be the better version of me. I've gained wisdom from the pressures of change and I love to help other people do the same